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18 There is no fear in love; instead, perfect love drives out fear, because fear involves punishment. So the one who fears has not reached perfection in love. 19 We love because He first loved us. -1 John 4:18 (HCSB)
So what is real love?
Well let me start with what love isn't; Love doesn't require you to compromise who you are and your core values. If anything the your significant other should push you closer to Christ not further away. This is why it is so important to first of all make sure the two of you are on the same page and that your values line up; Diving into a relationship and hoping down the line that they will change is a waste of time and will eventually leave you frustrated.
A healthy relationship requires that you two are working towards a common goal; Trust plays a major role; You need to know that you can take them at their word. If you cannot seem to get a straight answer out of them and you've resorted to playing investor gadget on their social media this should be a read flag that you need to move on.
Also , building a foundation on Gods word, using it as guidebook for your relationship and creating a safe place for open communication is key. You should be able to freely discuss how you feel, what you want out this relationship and if you both agree on the end goal. Do you see your relationship as something long term leading to marriage or are you content in just dating? You need to know if the two of you have the same expectations.
Young love is fun and exciting! It's easy to get caught up in the warm and fuzzy stage but don't be fooled into thinking that being a relationship is cure all and that if you gloss over your issues they will just go away. Relationships take a lot of hard work and commitment so make sure that you're up for the task, that you two are on the same page and that what you have is real love and not fleeting emotions.
Love,
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